Low Self-Esteem- Symptoms of emotional pain

Many people suffer from low self esteem which makes them treat themselves as worthless, useless and ugly. To start tackling the issue of low self-esteem it’s important to identify both the causes and the symptoms.

Characteristics of Low Self Esteem

People suffering from low self esteem have these basic symptoms which are not always easy to notice.

  1. They have  clear feelings of low self-worth and self-limiting talk.
  2. They suffer from negative thoughts
  3. They  fail to recognize their potential.
  4. They lack social skills and self confidence, and they tend to avoid social life.
  5. They may feel overwhelmed with the pace of life, unable to cope and helpless
  6. They may believe that no one will be able to understand or help them
  7. They may think there is not hope for the future.
  8. They have a disturbed and depressed appearance most of the time.
  9. They feel tired and may have physical symptoms such as regular headaches.
  10. They suffer from eating disorders such as anorexia or loss of apetite.
  11. They may have disruption in their sleeping patterns.
  12. They fear criticism and take compliments negatively.
  13. They are afraid to take up responsibilities.
  14. They are afraid to  form and air their own opinion.
  15. They may find it difficult to take decisions
  16. They live a pessimistic lifestyle.
  17. They feel they are failures when compared to others.
  18. They turn anything positive about themselves and twist it into a negative ‘Yes I am…but….’
  19. They constantly doubt if they can achieve anything in life
  20. They do not risk to try new things because they feel they are useless
  21. They blame themselves for their past
  22. They may have angry outbursts and want revenge or to get even with those who hurt them.
  23. They take things on those around them, usually their loved ones.
  24. They constantly argue about petty things.
  25. Children may fall back on their studies and will be unable to concentrate
  26. They don’t like their looks: hair is ugly, too fat, too short, too big a nose etc.
  27. They may act timidly and unassertively in the public
  28. They may be unable to ‘roll with the ball’ when others joke with them
  29. They may blame others for circumstances and setbacks in their life
  30. They may cause self-injury or have thoughts of suicide

Such persons may also have perfectionist or irrational and self-defeating thinking. These irrational and self-defeating beliefs  are rigid, extreme and illogical and will be in line of something like:

I absolutely MUST, always and at all times, perform well  and win the approval  of significant others. If I fail in this, that is awful and I am a bad, incompetent, unworthy person, who will probably always fail and deserves to suffer.

Or Else You May Say:

“Other people with whom I relate, absolutely MUST,  at all times, treat me nicely, considerately and fairly. Otherwise, it is terrible and they are rotten, bad, unworthy people who will always treat me badly and do not deserve a good life and should be severely punished for acting so abominably to me.”

If you have several of find yourself saying such absolutist and illogical thoughts or you demonstrate the  signs  mentioned above it’s about time you started tackling the issue seriously.  Unless you challenge your low self-esteem concept you cannot move forward to achieve Success in life.

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Monday, March 1st, 2010, by Reggie Aquilina, Filed under: | | 1 Comment

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