How To Trigger Success in Unexpected Ways
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Is there a specific pathway to Life Success?
Should we avoid experiencing failure?
Do we need to clarify exactly what we want in life?
Will our success depend on achieving the exact results we want to achieve?
Should we remain committed to a concrete and specific outcome?
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‘But of course Reggie!’ you might say.
‘Isn’t that what you’re always harping about? …….
Have a clear Dream you want to achieve! Remain consistent! Never give up! Be perseverant even in times of tribulation. Picture your Dream as if it is already achieved!’
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Very True!
And that’s what I’ll keep telling you over and over again…
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BUT….
today I want to lead you to a paradigm shift - a way of looking differently into the way you can trigger Success in your life. This might surprise you a bit but you really need consider this seriously!
I’d like to discuss two ways of triggering Life Success that may seem a bit strange or controversial at first.
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1. First of all I SO DO NOT agree with the ‘Success – Failure’ picture I have included above.
Why?
It’s very simple. I believe that the pathway to achieving success MUST be strewn with a healthy dose of Failures -
Both of the signposts in the picture should point in the same direction.
Because we achieve Success through the experiences we gain based upon a number of failures on the way.
So here’s my updated version I created with ‘Paint’ of how the picture with the signposts should look like from my point of view:
Get the idea now?
So the first unexpected way of triggering success is to befriend setbacks and learn from them. Success has to be built upon the foundations of positive insights gained through failures along the way.
Each setback is a step forward. A rough and often painful step – but a step that, if used well, can move us forward.
Now don’t get me wrong here.
I am not saying we should delibaretely try to experience failures in our life. We have enough people who shoot themselves in the leg and self-sabotage their success through unconscious and sometimes conscious thoughts and behavior. When we have negative thoughts we create self-fulfilling prophecies that can only lead us to pure unadulterated failure. In such situations the picture at the top with the opposing direction signs renders a true meaning. Because self-sabotaging failure will never lead us to Success.
It will ultimately take us in the opposite direction.
But nonetheless, we can experience ’Insightful setbacks’ when we are making a conscious effort to succeed and take risks in life. In such situations, each setback can give us more information about what our next step should be. Each setback is a stepping stone and a foundation upon which we will build our success- but only if we learn from our mistakes instead of wallowing in self-pity.
And so, learn to surf over your failures in a graceful manner. Be curious about what a setback is trying to tell you and keep your eyes open for any new opportunities that such failures can present within themselves.
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2. The Second way of triggering Success is to be unattached to EXACT results
For me, two important ‘Laws’ of Success are:
1. Consistency & Perseverance
2. Flexibility
Now you might view these two aspects as incongruent – a paradox that cannot be integrated within a model of Success.
If one of the most important rules of Life Success is to get clear about what EXACTLY you want to achieve in life how can you deviate from your chosen pathway?
How can you remain consistent and perseverant to a specific Dream and at the same time be flexible about the outcome?
How can you want something and then be flexible about what that something will be?
YES!
Scratch your head on this one but this is one of the secrets of Life Success!
Let me explain.
Certainly the first step in manifesting our Dream is to get clear about what we want.
Sounds obvious?
Well, you would be surprised by the amount of people who have not even reached this state of clarity.
Sometimes such people remind me of my erratic wanderings when I experience a power cut at home. Until I get my bearings I just stumble around in the dark and bump into all sorts of furniture… just because my lack of vision is making me loose my sense of direction.
So definately you should have a clear vision and specific goals you want to achieve in life. By being Consistent and Perseverant in your approach you will ensure that you have the stamina to follow through with your plan.
But does this mean that consistency and perseverance, on their own will always help you to achieve the EXACT results and outcomes you want in life?
Sometimes they will, and you do have the ability to achieve almost anything you want in life if you really persevere. But occasionally life requires us to be more smart than that.
The crux of Success is based on another important factor. While it is important to keep your focus on the end goal- on the Dream you want to achieve, it’s important not to get stuck to the EXACT results and outcomes.
What you must ask yourself is: What feelings will I experience when I achieve this Dream?
Let’s say that you want to open a shop because this will provide you with
a) financial freedom,
b) a means of owning your own business and
c) a sense of freedom because you will be your own boss.
You might go around trying to find a location for your shop. You could start buying the papers and asking around to find the right premises.You also start searching the internet to explore any small property around the area where you want to start your business. However each search is fruitless and you are on the verge of giving up your Dream. You might think that you have failed…once again.
Then one evening you are sitting morosely in a pub contemplating your next step as you absent-mindedly blow away at the white froth spilling over your beer mug. Suddenly you feel a tap on your shoulder – and as you turn you see an old schoolmate of yours whom you haven’t seen for years. Your friend starts discussing his internet business and how relieved he feels that he has finally managed to get his life back. He says that he is about to expand and wants to find partners for his next venture and would you be interested to join?
You might feel this is not exactly your mortar and brick business you wanted so you just dismiss the idea. The pity of it all is that if you really looked into what feelings you wanted to experience you would find that an Internet Marketing business could still give you:
a) financial freedom,
b) a means of owning your own business and
c) a sense of freedom because you will be your own boss.
The outcome of your Success in achieving your Dream will depend on whether you become aware of this potential opportunity and act upon it, or whether you will ignore it and just give up.
The fact is that in life we get a lot of opportunities, but we might simply ignore them because they do not seem to fit in EXACTLY within the strict confines of our straight-jacket plans for life. We might miss out on new attractive opportunities because we are chasing doggedly one specific outcome.
Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.- Alexander Graham Bell
It’s important to keep aligned to our Big Dream, but it is also crucial to notice what Life is telling us through the opportunities that arise. We might be smashing ourselves against the rocks of life simply because we want to achieve a specific outcome, when in fact, the trigger to our Life Success could be disguised as an opportunity with a different shade of colour than our rigid mind frame.
Take me as an example. My first Goal was to write a book about Life Coaching and get printed in the traditional way. However, being from a small island with no contacts to help me out get published, I realized that this would be difficult for me. It was my first book and naturally it would have been a huge challenge to get noticed by a great Publishing House. So did I give up?
NO WAY!
As I searched on the internet, the idea of creating an online product came to me and life presented me with an opportunity to do an Internet Marketing Course. I grabbed this opportunity and things changed totally.
I did not produce a hard copy of my book. However I not only created an ebook version but also developed my book into a full blown Life Coaching Program with 14 sessions which can be accessed at www.insightzonecoach.com. I learned how to create an online product and developed and expanded my book so drastically that it became a program which not only included the most Powerful Life Coaching tools but also 14 video clips as part of the package. I also ended up creating my own blog and this article which you are now reading!
The small decisions I took along the way based on opportunities that presented themselves helped to create the Success I now enjoy with this Program. It also helped me to expand my knowledge and it gave me a new label I could call myself- that of an Internet Marketer – something I never dreamed I would do. And all this happened because I kept aligned to my big Dream about what I wanted to create and achieve – but at the same time I was flexible to the opportunities and signs that presented themselves.
So take your first step and watch the ripple effect of this one small action…..
Watch carefully with intention and awereness each effect that your action has created – notice what is happening around you and what life is telling you.
Stay tuned to each expanding ripple and identify each opportunity as it arises.
Ripples expand in a 360 degree fashion and in the same way opportunities can take you through a different pathway than you originally planned. However, the fact remains that a ripple will always take you beyond your comfort zone and it may expand your Success to a perimeter you never even dreamt possible.
This is how we can trigger Success in unexpected ways.
1. By using our Failures as ‘Insightful Setbacks’
2. By not being mule headed in our approach and understanding the opportunities and signs that life is presenting to us.
Knowing clearly what feelings we want to experience in our life and what Values we want to honor will help us to use positively the setbacks we meet with and to be aware of opportunities that life will present.
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